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Growing up in a large family comes with its own problems, sometimes.  Like there being so many of us, that occassionally one would get lost.  The most memorable time was when we all went grocery shopping with my mom at the Super-X Market, down the bottom of the hill.  We did our shopping, loaded up the car, and came home.  As we were unloading the groceries, Mom asked: "Where's Ben?"  "I dunno....around here somewhere..."  We looked everywhere, and then Mom asked if anyone remembered if (3-yr-old) Ben was in the car coming home from the store?  None of us could recall Ben's presence in the car...., panic time!  Mom called the store, and they said that yes, Ben was there, and having quite a time.  The clerks had bought him icecream, and were fussing over him, when Mom arrived to bring him home.  He hadn't even missed us.  I could see the wheels turning in my other young siblings heads.  How to get lost themselves next time, so that they could score some icecream and attention? 

My brother Mark was the best escape artist of us all.  How he did it, I still don't know, because we tried our best to keep a watch on him.   Mark took off a lot, often winding up around Skyline Blvd., the police finding him, and bringing him back home.  Mark is autistic, so he didn't realize that he might worry someone when he wandered off.  Mark also loved to turn off the power at the switch-boxes of people's homes, or turn on their water hoses, and spray those around.  Mark was a genius at figuring out how to get into those locked switch-boxes!  You can imagine that this didn't make us very popular with the neighbors.  The neighbors across the street, the Millers, were particularly critical that such a large family could even exist (I constantly heard the neighbors criticize my mom for having so many kids).  The Millers had a beautifully-kept home, so possibly they were worried that their own property values would go down, being situated so close to the Hagler "Animal House" across the street. 
On one momentous day, the Millers were having a party, all their guests dressed up.  We didn't know what the occassion was, but somehow Mark left the house without our realizing it.  The next thing I saw was my brother holding a hose, turned on full blast, right at the Miller's picture window.  The Millers and their guests looked out that picture window, seemingly horrified.  I think that was one of the occassions when Mrs. Miller would march over to our house and have a yelling match with my mom.   I don't know why Mrs. Miller would object to Mark's washing her windows, though.  Some people could be so uptight!
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Another thing about being in such a large family is that you are noticable when you are all together. You are part of your own army.  Every time we would go out, people would stare at us.  We became accustomed to being looked at, when we were out, though. The advantages were that we always had someone to play with.  Some disadvantages were that we had to share - food, space, talk-time.  There was never enough food; if one of us was unwise enough to leave their plate for a second, someone else would consume the rest of our meal!  We all learned to eat fast.  I also learned to talk fast, as well, because there was also competition for "talk-time".  We all wanted mom's attention, and had to grab for it, in bits and pieces. Arlo would really become frustrated, because his thoughts were so long, that when he paused in the middle of one of his monologues, another of us would jump in.  "

Stop interrupting me!"  "Stop interrupting my interruption!"  Later, as the older sister, I had young siblings hanging onto me, trying to get their own words-in-edgewise.  Sometimes it felt like Night of the Living Dead, with all the little hands reaching up.   But the need for talk-time was always there. Even in Arlo's last days, he was often interrupted by some of his siblings (myself included, guilty as charged).  His happiest moments then were when everyone would just shut up, and LISTEN to him.  What a concept!  Letters and email became critical, because then one could express oneself without interruption.  I have some wonderful, funny, informative  letters from my siblings. Whoda' thunk it?
There were 4 more, after this!!! LtR:
Deb, Arlo, Tom, Mark & Laurie
Clockwise from left:  Tom, Ben, Joe, Mom,
Mark Sue & George
1978: Arlo, Tom (with wife Georgia), George, Joe, Sue & Ben
Arlo, Joe, Sue, Kelly (my daughter), Deb, Ben, George and Sheena (the dog).
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